The Joys of Anal Sex

Anal sex is something that is a divisive topic. There are people that love it and people that absolutely hate it. There are horror stories out there about bad experiences with anal sex and others believing that is only something that gay men should be having. However, anal sex can be one of the most enjoyable elements of sex. Here is why anal sex is something that you should try at least once.

Preparation

One of the reasons that anal sex can be painful and an experience that frightens many off is that time isn’t taken to prepare properly for it. The first thing you should do when you are thinking about having anal sex is talk to your partner about it. Have a frank conversation about what you’d like to try and even look up a few positions that could make it more comfortable and easier, especially if it’s your or your partner’s first time trying it. There’s no need to rush into anal sex, in fact rushing can lead to one of the many horror stories and put you or your partner off the idea of ever trying again. If it takes more than one conversation or several weeks to decide that you are both ready for anal sex, then that time is time well spent.

Once you and your partner have both decided that you are ready to try anal sex, the next thing you need to do is invest in some high quality lube. Lube is one thing that you don’t want to forget when having anal sex as the anus isn’t self-lubricating. What you want is a silicone based lubricant rather than a water based one. The reason for this is that water based lubricants tend to dry out quickly, whereas a good silicone based lubricant will last for hours. This is something that is very useful with anal sex as you can take your time rather than having to rush because you’re worried about drying out. It also stops your rhythm being broken when you have to pull out and reapply lube.

One other thing you should bear in mind is that anal sex can be very messy, but there are ways around the mess. For some people a high fibre diet with lots of fresh fruit and veg is enough to keep things clean for anal sex, for others using the shower head and warm water is enough to clean things out, but if you want to be sure things are clean and limit the mess anal douche kits are out there.

These are simple devices that will flush out any waste and leave you nice and clean. If you are keen on using an anal douche, then there are a range to choose from and you should follow the directions on each kit carefully as over douching can lead to more problems.

Taking it Slow

Once you’ve taken the steps to prepare for anal sex, it’s time to enjoy it. But as we’ve already said, that doesn’t mean going for it full tilt. The anus is a very tight passage way and trying to force yourself in all at once is not going to be the most comfortable thing for you or your partner. Instead you should take things slowly, play with your partner’s anus to help it to relax. Use your little finger to see how tight it is, then move onto your index finger and then onto your index and middle finger together. This not only helps to get your partner to relax, but it also gives them chance to get used to the sensation as well as providing a little bit of anticipation.

If fingers aren’t working, then there is always the option of toys to help stretch out the anus, but as much as they can help with stretching, they are really a lot more fun than that – something we’ll get to in a moment.

Once you and your partner are both relaxed, then it’s time to apply the lube. You may want to squirt some lube directly onto the asshole as well as rubbing it over your cock to make sure that you have enough on. Then it’s time to think about entry. The key to anal entry is being gentle and letting the anus take the penis or strap on a bit at a time. Some people will be able to take to anal sex much more quickly than others; everyone is different on this score. Sometimes the tip will slide in easily, you pull back and then manage to get half way before pulling back and then get all the way in on the third thrust. Other times you will need to take it much slower. Gauge the speed and how things feel by talking to your partner during anal. The more you can communicate how it feels and which positions are enjoyable for you both will enable you to enjoy anal sex much more often.

Toys

For those that have already had anal sex or are looking to graduate to it, anal toys can be a great way to increase sexual pleasure from anal sex as well as helping to show your partner how much fun anal can be. There are several different types of anal sex toys that are designed for anal play:

The Butt Plug – this is the most obvious of the anal sex toys, not only does it help to stretch out the anus to make entry easier, but playing with a butt plug can also have some very pleasurable effects. Size is important to consider with butt plugs. Start small and gradually get larger, bringing out a huge butt plug to play with may just frighten your partner into never wanting to try anal.

Anal beads – there are a variety of different anal beads, and like the butt plug, they can be pleasurable for both men and women. Some varieties of anal beads vibrate, some are all the same size on a string whilst others have a variety of different sizes and are joined by thicker pieces of silicone. The advantage to anal beads is the penetration. They slide in one at a time, letting the anus get used to them, and the strings of beads that come with a handle mean you can have some fun pulling them out part of the way and pushing them in again – giving you complete control over your partner’s pleasure.

Cock rings – cock rings can be another wonderful way to help increase the pleasure of anal sex, and make it last longer too. The restriction of blood flow and help stave off climax and vibrating cock rings can provide even more pleasure.

One final thing

If you are the one on the receiving end of anal sex, you can increase your own pleasure by playing with yourself during it. The self-stimulation and increased levels of pleasure helps your mind to associate anal sex with the stimulation and pleasure you feel and makes any anal sex in the future more enjoyable by the association.

If you are interested in trying anal sex then check out our range of lubes and anal douches. If you are looking for toys then see our ranges of butt plugs, cock rings and anal beads to help you get the most out of anal sex.