Sexting: Our Ultimate Guide On Everything You Need To Know To Dirty Text

Sexting, or the art of sending dirty texts, could be just what you need to add a little extra spice to your relationship. It can be foreplay, or the main event. It can help rediscover the intimacy in your relationship, add anticipation, or it can help you keep a long distance relationship full of sparks. Here’s everything you need to know to get you started before you send your first dirty text.

Time Your Messages

Sexting won’t be fun for your recipient if they’re not in the right place. For example, lunch with Grandma is not the time to receive a steamy message. The first message you shoudl send to your partner is just a simple one. Ask if they’re busy, or what they’re doing.

Anticipation

In the words of Dr Frank N Furter of The Rocky Horror Picture Show, you need to ‘quiver with anticipation’. In terms of sexting, what that means is that you should take it slow. Build the suspense, don’t go straight to a nude, or a detailed message on what the sex will feel like. Talk about the foreplay, the build-up. You could even start by remembering the last time you had sex with your partner, or the most memorable sex you’ve ever had with your partner.

It’s A Role To Play

Sexting is essentially a little like role play. It’s building a fantasy. Try not to interrupt your hot, dirty messages with ones about who’s picking up the milk.

Your Comfort Zone

Sexting might be a little out of your comfort zone, but don’t go too far. If it makes you hugely uncomfortable, then it’s not going to be fun, or get you in the mood.

Unsolicited Nudes Are A No-No

Even if the sexting is hot, and the messages are getting dirtier, an unsolicited nude is a no-no. That doesn’t mean that you can’t send nudes, if you’re comfortable with it, but it does mean that you need to let your partner know that you’re going to send a NSFW (Not Safe For Work) image before you do it. It will give them the chance to make sure that they are the only one around when the image arrives.

Speaking Of Images

Images can add another dimension to your messages. They don’t have to be explicit, in fact, the first images you send shouldn’t be full nudity. Pay close attention to the angles of the images. You can make them as provocative as you want to, but use your angles and lighting wisely. It can be a good idea to take some ahead of time. You can use an app on your phone to keep these kind of selfies private, and secured with a PIN. But, spending an afternoon when you feel great taking some racy selfies isn’t a waste of time. It means that when your dirty text session is heating up, you won’t have to stop, interrupt the flow, and take photos.

Use Your Words

Images are great, but you’ll need to use words to keep your sexting session hot and steamy. You could try describing what you’re wearing, how it feels, how you feel, or what you want to do. Ask your partner how they feel, what they’re doing and what they want. You can make suggestions, or give them instructions on what to do next.

If you need inspiration on how to phrase things or what to say, try reading some steamy romance novels. There’s so many hot erotica books available, so search some out, and get reading. Another inspiration could be your experiences with your partner. Tell them about things that they do that you love. Remind them about the hottest sex you ever had together.

You can also use your own fantasies as inspiration. In fact, sexting can be a great way to tell your partner about your fantasies. There can be a little less pressure, because it’s not a face to face conversation.

Use as much detail as you can. Details help you and your partner imagine what’s happening, how it would feel, and build the anticipation. Details can also help keep the conversation going.

Emojis Can Work Too

Emojis have become a bit of a double entendre, so embrace them as sexual innuendos. The other benefit of using emojis is that you and your partner can sext in public, without it going over the top.

Ask Your Partner Questions

Sexting shouldn’t be one-sided. Ask your partner questions. You can use their answers to help continue your dirty texts. Ask what their fantasies are, or what they want you to be wearing, or what their favourite foreplay is.

If you want to keep the flow of your conversation going, you should come up with questions before you start sexting. Think of five to seven questions or phrases beforehand, and you can keep things moving.

Try To Avoid Technical Terms

Before you begin sexting, think of what words you’ll use to describe body part. Try to avoid the techinal, medical terms. Euphemisms and slang words sound hotter. Thinking about the words you use means that when you’re getting into to, you won’t need to pause to phrase your message in the right way.

Use Everything Your Phone Offers

Don’t just get stuck in typing messages, or sending images. Smartphones offer more than just SMS, or image sending. You can send voice recordings as well. When you’re recording yourself, keep it natural. In fact, you might not need to speak at all. Instead, you might want to record the sounds, noises, and moans you would make if your partner was there with you.

You could also try sending memes or GIFS, if they’re relevant to your conversation. They can keep the flow of the messages going, but they can lighten the load for you both. Someone else has already thought about them, found them hot, and made them. You don’t have to think about them. You just have to send them.