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February 18, 2021


“Timings” and How to Improve Your Sex Life

Timings are something you may never have thought of before, but they are incredibly important when it comes to your sex life and improving it.

What are timings?

Simply put, timings are the time or times in the day when you feel more aroused and want to have sex. People lead such busy lives that stopping to consider when they are most aroused never enters their minds. In fact, most people get stuck in the trap of either have sex at night or in the morning and it may be that neither you or your partner feel particularly aroused then. Though there is nothing wrong with having sex like this, you are missing out on better sex that leaves you feeling more satisfied.

How do I know when my times are?

That’s simple, it’s the time of day when you find our mind slipping towards thoughts of sex and your body is more responsible to sexual stimuli, whether it is naked images or flirting or finding that you are at home and want to masturbate.

How do I know when my partner’s times are?

The best way to find out when your partner’s times are to ask them. If neither of you know when your times are, then you can discover together. You should know that times tend not to be too strict, they will periods such as when you wake up, when you go to bed, in the middle of the night, late morning, early afternoon, late afternoon, early evening etc. They could be triggered by certain activities too. You may find that after you have been exercising or when you wake up that you find you are easier to stimulate.

Why should I care when my partner’s times are?

For you, it may be that your most aroused first thing in the morning, but for your partner, they may be most aroused at night. There are instances when couples have the same timings, but this can be a rare occurrence. If you and your partner have the same timings, then you can arrange to have sex when you will both be stimulated, safe in the knowledge that you are both in the mood and set for some great sex.

When your partner has different timings to you, it can make sex more difficult to plan. What it does do is help you to show your partner that you are thinking about their needs and desires by surprising them with sex when they are most easily aroused.

Sex like this can be more enjoyable than you think as the extra effort on your part can make your partner feel more valued and in return, want to experiment with some fantasies that you have had for years. Even if they don’t want to experiment, the sex is sure to be fantastic.

How can I make the most of timings?

The best way to make the most of timings is to see if there any times when your timings and your partner’s overlap. If there is overlap, then make sure that you are making time for sex in this window as often as possible. Be careful that it doesn’t become too routine though.

If you partner’s timings and your timings don’t overlap, then you may want to try alternating between their timing and yours.

How can timings improve sex?

When you or your partner are at your most horny, the sex you experience can be incredible. If sex has become mechanical and almost like a chore with your partner, timings can help to make it fun and enjoyable again. You should also make sure that you allow plenty of time for foreplay when experimenting with timings as this can help to heighten the pleasure and make the experience more enjoyable for you both.

What if neither of us can have sex when are timings are?

There are a number of reasons that you may not be able to have sex when your times or your partner’s times are. It could be that one or either of you has to work through your times. It could be that you have kids and they get in the way of your timings. There are ways that you can make the most out of timings to help your sex life, even if life wants to get in the way.

Work

Work can be one of the biggest barriers to timings. It could be that you have to go to bed early and you are asleep when your partner or you is most easily aroused. If you are most horny first thing in the morning, you may miss your timing because you are rushing to get out of the house for work. When your timing is in the middle or the day or early afternoon, you might be at work, making it very difficult to have sex with your partner.

If work is getting in the way of timings, then trying to have days off at the same time as your partner can help, especially if you make sure that your plans for those days off include some dedicated time for sex.

Kids

Kids can be one of the biggest passion killers, but as parents you can still experiment with timings when you have them taking up most of your time. You can send the kids to their grandparents for the day or for a sleepover (depending on when your timings are), arrange for your kids to be on sleepovers at the same time so that you have time to play, or you can set rules for times when the kids aren’t allowed in your bedroom or out of theirs so that you don’t have to wait for sleepovers to enjoy each other at your best.

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