How To Increase Anticipation

When it comes to sex, if you’re looking to satisfy your deepest desires and get the most pleasure out of the act, it’s not just about a wham bam, thank you ma’am encounter. There are lots of different elements that come together to make every sexual encounter enjoyable for both parties. One of the most important elements is the anticipation (or the sexual tension) that you create before you get anywhere close to the physical act.
If you have been trying to create sexual tension with your partner or want some advice on the best ways to increase anticipation, then read on to discover how to create sexual tension and increase anticipation to make your sex life even more enjoyable.

Start early

It is never too early to start creating a need for sex. You can fan the flames of desire slowly, letting the longing build up over hours rather than minutes. If you’re with your partner when you wake up in the morning then start off by kissing, touching each other in ways that you find exciting, get it so you are both aroused, but don’t go any further. Leave yourselves wanting more from each other that can build throughout the day.
If you are going to be away from each other for a few days, then make sure that you leave each other in this state of wanting more, as you can play the sexual tension out for days to make your eventual reunion even more enjoyable.

Double up in the shower

Showering together can be a great way to increase anticipation, especially if you’ve just gotten out of bed and you both want more. Seeing each other naked, soapy, covered in water, and in close proximity – it’s a recipe for desire that is played out in romance fiction again and again, so why not make it a reality?

Text, Whatsapp, Line

Whatever messaging service that you and your partner use, make sure that you are making the most out of it. Not just asking them to remember to buy milk or pick you up from the pub at a set time, but sending suggestive texts and even out and out brazen ones.
Subtle things can make your partner smile, “Don’t forget the cream. I got the strawberries” might be all that’s needed to get their motor running. If you’re trying to continue building the sexual tension that you started in the morning, start playing out a fantasy scenario by text with your partner. Take it in turns to direct what is happening and use it to let them know what you want them to do to you later.

Talk and Tease

When you are finally together, don’t let the tension overwhelm you, push it even further. Whisper dirty things in their ear whilst you have them pinned to sofa or against the wall. Take them out for dinner and whisper dirty things to them throughout the meal.

Make Out

When you’ve finished your meal, make out, touch, tease and kiss, let it carry you through to the end of the night and when you get home, make out more. If you can engage in enjoyable contact that doesn’t lead to orgasm, you are ramping up the tension and anticipation even more.
Tie them down
One of the most incredible ways to increase sexual tension is to tie your partner, especially if they are the one that is more turned on. You can have a lot of fun teasing them by touch and kissing them in fleeting and tender ways – especially between the thighs. Don’t be afraid to use your tongue too. You can take it in turns to be tied up too.

Flirt

Flirting with your partner is something that you should never stop doing. Flirting is the language of desire and the more you flirt, the more desirable your partner will feel. Flirting can help you to increase anticipation, and can also lead to fun suggestions and exploring sides to your sexual relationship you have never done before.
Different Positions and Places

When you finally are ready to release the pressure valve on your sexual tension and have sex, then you might want to think about try a range of different positions. There are a number of positions that you may have always wanted to try, or you may have been inspired to try something new now that you’ve been building up the sexual tension and don’t want to go back to the same sexual pattern. There are so many positions out there that even if you aren’t feeling too confident about experimenting, you’ll find some that are easier than others. Once you are feeling more confident, you can try harder positions.

Different positions is only one thing you can try to make things a bit more exciting. Having sex in a variety of different places can also be a great way to increase the anticipation. Sex on the living room floor or bent over the dining room table, sex in the bathroom or pressed against the kitchen cupboard, wherever you might want to have sex it can prove to be extremely liberating and give you ideas about what you want to do next. It can also give you plenty of dirty and flirty things to text to your partner, or bring up next time you are at dinner.

Ban on Sex

If you really want to heighten the feeling of anticipation and increase the sexual tension to a breaking point, then you might want to put a ban on certain types of sex for set periods of time. For example you might want to ban intercourse for two weeks, but have your partner constantly teasing you until you both get to the point where you physically cannot wait any longer.

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